tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8924327700647135447.post8551723447612224380..comments2023-04-07T07:36:00.867-07:00Comments on A Homemaker in Training: Hesistant HostessJMChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08920753679007679504noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8924327700647135447.post-58785364847419611312010-07-19T14:50:21.502-07:002010-07-19T14:50:21.502-07:00Wow Jess. totally convicting (thanks a LOT ;-)). ...Wow Jess. totally convicting (thanks a LOT ;-)). Other than our annual Christmas fest and close friends for rare occasions, we have not had people over for anything. First it was the very real excuse of me being far too ill to deal with any of that. That lasted 3 years. Now that I'm better for the most part...<br>My problem has been I feel people have an expectation of me. People joke "oh we're going to Heather's it's gonna be awesome." And that put this pressure on me not only to perform but that the meal couldn't be simple and inexpensive (which, let's face it, is important when entertaining on a budget). I know they were only being complimentary but all of a sudden I would have this anxiety that I didn't have before. I've also had people express that they are "sorry" that they have "only brought brownies from a box." It makes me feel horrible like maybe I have said something that makes them think I'm a complete snob who wouldn't appreciate their yummy contribution to the meal! Just as your friend said, I've experienced people telling me they are nervous to have me over for dinner (and thus sometimes don't extend the invite). That makes me sad. To your point it's so not about the food, the table or the degree of cleanliness & organization of the house. It's about the people and the fellowship. So I just need to do it!Heathernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8924327700647135447.post-22675574286409060092010-07-20T14:47:59.905-07:002010-07-20T14:47:59.905-07:00I know what you mean. I get really nervous to host...I know what you mean. I get really nervous to host get togethers at my house too. My husband pointed out that he thinks I am a good cook (bless his heart), and how is anyone ever going to know, if I never want to have people over for dinner. It is not that I don't want to have guests, I just worry about the house being clean enough, and the food being good enough.. but then people just really love to visit, and they aren't thinking about all the little things that really don't matter ;)Briannahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11135879814283396363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8924327700647135447.post-5701200790039769952010-07-20T22:32:07.251-07:002010-07-20T22:32:07.251-07:00I could just hug you!Remember that the requirement...I could just hug you!<br><br>Remember that the requirement to BE hospitable is not just for elders and their wives. It is a being not a doing. Pastor Wilson always says that "doing flows out of being." I don't know how many times I've thought about that statement in the last 6-7 months.Lumahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12230737062592275879noreply@blogger.com